I offer Psychodynamic and Psychosexual therapy bringing together a decade's worth of experience in working with individuals and couples, dealing with relationship difficulties and sexual dysfunction.
I did my training at the Tavistock Relationships ( TR- formerly TCCR) in London, one of the world's renowned institutions in relationship and counselling work. Soon after I graduated, I started working at the Tavistock Relationships as a Trainer, which involved teaching counselling skills on the PGDip course. I was also a clinical staff member at TR, undertaking weekly client assessments as well.
I also bring a unique combination of perspectives from my professional foundations built on my teaching and clinical experience gained at TR as well as a deep understanding of Asian culture and mores. I am keenly aware of the challenges faced by couples from Asian and similar backgrounds in facing up to and addressing their relationship problems.
I run a private practice in Hampstead NW3 and Golders Green NW11, London.
I am a member of British Association for Counsellors & Psychotherapists (BACP) as well as College Of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT).
I hold a BA Psych, PGDip Couple & Relationship Counselling, MSc Psychosexual Therapy. I am interested in couple relationships and the impact of sexual difficulties on committed relationships.
According to Carl Jung ‘when an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate’. Jung is pointing towards the agency that each human being has over their situation in life. That is not to say that we can control or should be able to control everything that happens to us. But the way I see it, each one of us has the capacity to reflect on our situation and raise our self awareness, in what we may be contributing to a certain relationship ourselves.
Psychodynamic therapy can help couples or individuals understand the role they may be playing. This in turn helps people to take a step back and hopefully develop empathy for their partner. I try to untangle conflictual situations that my clients may be faced with, so we can look at what might be going on underneath a certain behaviour.
In my experience in working with relationships, I have found that clients benefit from having weekly sessions, where they can take their problems to. Being heard by a neutral third person, who is curious and empathetic about their issues, lowers clients’ sense of isolation and helps them in resolving their problems. As a therapist I do not offer my clients any advice, rather I support them in finding their own unique solutions and compromises.
Psychosexual Therapy Problems around sex can put a tremendous strain on a relationship. These may include:
Low sexual desire or interest in sex in both men and women.
Erectile difficulties and premature ejaculation in men due to hormonal imbalance or age related issues.
Life stage changes like peri/postnatal depression in both women and men.
Peri-menopause or menopause that can make sex painful or unpleasant in women.
As well as other mental health challenges like depression, anxiety and eating disorders all of which have an impact on relationships in general and sexual relationships in particular.
There are myriad reasons for why a couple or a relationship suffers. Psychosexual therapy aims to address the root cause thinking about developmental patterns (like attachment and childhood traumas) while at the same time attempting to offer advice and techniques to overcome such difficulties.
I also offer online counselling however the arrangements have to be worked out on a case by case basis. Similar terms apply in the case of supervision services.
I practice with heterosexual as well as same-sex couples and partners.